Divided by Pride, United in Humility

Welcome to Day 1 of the 7 Deadly Thoughts series! We’ll be starting out discussing Prideful Thoughts.

Miss this series’ introductory post? Pop over here and check it out!

#1: Prideful Thoughts

Other people don’t live up to my high standards.

Not too long ago, I fell into the sin of prideful thinking, and it was over something completely trivial.

At the time, most of my friends and family drank soda or coffee regularly to stay alert throughout the day. I didn’t care for coffee then, rarely drank soda, and somehow ended up fairly conceited about it. I was quite pleased with myself because I didn’t need “that stuff” to make it through the day. I thought I was making a good, healthy choice, and I allowed it to make me feel superior.

Now, there’s no problem with someone choosing to either enjoy or abstain from caffeine. With proper moderation, it doesn’t need to be a moral issue whether you do or don’t. My personal abstention was not sinful, but my prideful thoughts about it were.

This is true of all morally neutral convictions--decisions the Bible doesn't give us specific directions about. When we have the freedom to choose, we can become so passionate about our choices that we try to impose them on everyone. We think we know better and become frustrated when they disagree. This allows non-essential issues to become points of division.

Your area of pride may be different than mine. Maybe it’s really important to you to dust and vacuum your home every day, and you look down your nose at the dust bunnies lurking in the corners of your friend’s home. Perhaps you are passionate about being “green”, so you shake your head at homes that use disposable goods and traditional cleaning products.  These are all wonderful things to be passionate about, and if you are pursuing them to the glory of God  [1 Corinthians 10:31], more power to you! But, if your attitude becomes condescending or scornful, these morally neutral choices have become tainted with the sin of pride.

Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.
Philippians 2:3

We shouldn’t be getting into rivalries with other believers about how we educate our children, or feel conceited about how much money we save by not having cable television. In humility, we must consider others (and our thoughts and attitudes toward them) as more significant than passions that may be God-given, but are not essential to the Gospel.

The antidote to Pride is Humility.

I made it all the way through college and grad school without jumping on the coffee bandwagon. What finally did me in was having to set my alarm for 5:30am every day when I became a teacher. Over a period of a few months, I went from grabbing a coffee once a week or so, to every school day, to every single day. I’ve developed a taste for lattes, and these days I make myself one every morning. I now recognize that there are appropriate ways to use caffeine, and abstaining or indulging is nothing to be prideful about.

I eventually changed my mind about caffeine, but not all of our private passions will change. We can still get excited about jogging, cloth diapering, eating gluten-free, or homesteading, and even enthusiastically share our opinions with others! The key is that humility piece from Philippians 2:3. We must approach all of these topics with humility, and place higher value on relationships than on whether we can talk all of our friends into switching to reusable toilet paper because it's so Earth-friendly.

Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.
Colossians 3:12-14
 


Respond

Has a personal conviction ever become a point of pride in your life? What steps have you taken be passionate, but with humility?

Seven Deadly Thoughts

I’ve shared before about my struggles with the temptation to hide my flaws to protect my pride. The sins I’m most eager to be free of are the ones that become apparent in my behaviors because they tarnish my much-beloved image of myself. I focus so much on my outward actions and never go after the thoughts that preceded them: those heart-deep struggles that begin with my very thoughts.

It’s like mowing over weeds but never destroying up the roots: it may look better, but the problem is still there.

We will never truly be like Christ if we seek only to look holy on the outside while our insides are a mess. We have to go into those deep and painful places and allow God to heal them. The key to true freedom is this: “let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think” [Romans 12:2, NLT].

That’s why I’m launching my first blog series! I’m calling it 7 Deadly Thoughts. Beginning next week, I’ll be digging into 7 types of particularly harmful thoughts that rob us of joy, stunt our spiritual growth, and tempt us to sin. Here are the types of “deadly” thoughts I’ll be discussing over the next few weeks:

#1: Prideful - Other people don’t live up to my high standards.

#2: UngratefulWhy does everyone else seem better off than me?

#3: Merciless - Some people are unworthy of my compassion.

#4: Self-serving - My needs come first.

#5: FearfulI have to take care of myself, because I can’t trust anyone else.

#6: VictimizedThe only way to fix my problem is for someone else to change.

#7: HopelessNothing will ever get better.

I’ll see you on Monday, when we’ll start with prideful thoughts!


Respond

What kinds of harmful thoughts do you struggle with? Did I miss any?

The American Dream is Not God’s Best for Us

I’m afraid that my idea of what I want God’s plans for my life to look like bear too much of a resemblance to the American Dream: a nice home, a good job, a happy family.

So much of the time, when I talk to God, I’m asking Him to take away some problem or burden in my life (or someone else’s). When I ask him to bless, I imagine health, financial security, and other comforts.

But these are not the best blessings.

Somewhere along the way, God’s Word has been getting mixed up with bits of the prosperity gospel and a touch of those “follow your heart” Disney anthems. I’m tempted to think: God wants to give me the desires of my heart! If I’m a “good Christian” and I have enough faith, the things I pray for will happen!

That is not the Gospel.

Yes, God answers some prayers with physical healing or with financial provision. Sometimes He even gives us more than we need. But even (especially?) when our prayers aren’t answered the way we hoped or expected, God is blessing us because he knows what we need more than we do.

No matter the circumstance, what we always need is more of Him.

When a friend disappoints...

When the pregnancy test comes up negative again...

When the bank account is empty...

When the response to that job application begins “We regret to inform you…”

When the news from the doctor isn’t good...

When we fight through trials of all kinds, God is teaching us to trust Him more, and to be satisfied not by our circumstances, but by Himself. I think that for most people it is the hard times that strengthen our faith the most, not times of plenty. In fact, we’re commanded to rejoice through hardships, because of the good fruit it produces in our lives:

Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
James 1:2-4

More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.
Romans 5:3-5

God is looking out for more than our immediate happiness. He is planning for our future in eternity, blessing us in ways that will grow our character and make us look more like Christ. His desire is for us to know and be known by Him.

As we pray, instead of asking Him to make difficulties in our lives easier, we can ask Him to reveal how our our current circumstances can draw us nearer to Him. That is where God’s best for us is found.


Respond

How have you felt God drawing you closer to himself through trials? What ways have you found to help you rejoice in hardships?